Body confidence; everyone wants it but lets be honest, it's hard to get. It's not something you can buy or achieve over night, it's something that you need to be constantly striving for. For years I battled with hating my body and being ashamed of the way I look but recently I'm a lot happier.
Maybe this new found confidence has come with age or with the rise in body acceptance blogs, but I'm happy I've found it. Now don't get me wrong I still have days when I hate the way everything looks on me. I'll try a hundred outfits on only to dislike them all and end up crying in my room not wanting to go out. I'm not perfect and I'll probably never be 100% happy with my lumps and bumps but that must be natural, right?
The majority of the time I'm pretty chill with how I look. I'm the opposite of the girls you'll find in Vogue and I'm actually the heaviest and biggest I've ever been in my life, but I mostly don't mind. I don't, mind that, is until I have someone to compare myself with. You might remember that I mentioned in this post how I didn't look like any of the other bloggers at The Clothes Show back in December and it really got me down. That day, looking at all the other gorgeous girls, my confidence hit rock bottom. But why? No-one had said anything mean to me, in fact everyone was really friendly, so how did I end up feeling so shit? I did it to myself. I compared my body, my face, my hair and even the clothes I chose to wear that day to the others. Yes they all looked amazing, but that morning when I left for The Clothes Show, I thought I looked pretty good too until I started to overthink everything.
We have got to stop comparing ourselves to others. The fashion industry is finally coming around to using diverse body shapes and if the most judgemental industry going is starting to promote body confidence, it's about time we started taking it on board. I'm happier with my body now than I have ever been, but I just need to change the way I think, we all do. Comparing yourself to someone thinner or prettier won't make you any thinner or prettier, it will just give you a hang up.
Although most of the time I love my body, I still have a lot to work on. It's about time we all started appreciating the way we look instead of worrying if we look as good as the next person. It's good to think highly of other women but it's just as important to admire yourself.
Do you struggle with body confidence? How do you keep the negative thoughts at bay?
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I feel like I'm constantly stalking your blog atm but your content has been killer, lately! On to the post - you go girl! Like you, I'm currently at my biggest but I'm pretty bloody content with that :D That said, I too have days where everything looks awful on. I guess that's just life and like you say, it can't be perfect all the time. I 100% agree about how shit it is when you start comparing yourselves to others, and for me I think this is the reason that I ever start to feel unhappy with my body. I'll be fine until BOOM see some girl out at the shops killing with a tiny figure and cute skirt and I'm like, 'oh', and my own confidence falters. It's frustrating and I try not to let it get to me, but that's a hard task in itself. I don't know what the answer is, I guess you just have to be aware of your thoughts so that you can stop yourself sinking too far into them. xx
ReplyDeleteFirstly thank you for your comment my lovely, I'm really glad you're enjoying reading my blog, coming from you it really means a lot! I think we will all start to be a lot happier in ourselves once we stop comparing ourselves to others. I think this applies to all aspects of our lives too, not just in the way we look. I'm glad you think the same! xx
DeleteReally great post on such an important subject - I'm so glad you're feeling happier in yourself. I think you're definitely right that it's about acceptance. Knowing that you are you and that's fine. You don't have to be 'pretty like her' you can be pretty like you. I think conversation around prioritising other qualities is so important and the media has a lot to answer for. Our generation is certainly causing a shift.
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Thank you for you're comment my lovely. I really want to start covering important things on my blog this year! I'm glad body confidence is having a moment right now, like you said, we are definitely the generation that is trying to change the way the media promotes things. xx
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